7 PROBABLE REASONS WHY SHE IS SINGLE

    

By reading this article you are guaranteeing me and yourself to avoid from using the word ‘Spinster’ to denote a continually unmarried woman, which is so rude and inappropriate to hear. She is single, but it does she will be spinning wheels throughout her life to economically sustain herself (anyway, in 21^st Century who does that). Though I am not a big fan of American English, but I will be ever grateful to the lad or the lady who coined the term ‘Bachelorette’. You may proceed,

7. BECAUSE SHE IS A MEMBER OF ‘NO MAN NO CRY’ CLUB: Gender stereotyping is something we all are aware of. Men are dogs, women are gold diggers, men like sex all the time, women are control freaks etc. Some women know ‘not to put’ all men under one category while others were unfortunate enough to come across men who ‘did not give them a chance’ not to generalise men. She must have been wooed by a man who initially sang all those love songs of together forever, but, ran away the minute a bombshell or terrorist or bankruptcy came on the way. She might be surrounded by aunts whose hearts were broken by sailors and soldiers, she might have read sad and grey novels where heartbroken women starved and died but their men went unpunished by the writer. Possibly, she might not have enough experiences to make her a feminist or misandrist, but for sure a member of ‘No Man No Cry’ club. Hence, she is single.

6. BECAUSE HER INDEPENDENCE IS ABOVE EVERYTHING: Her home lives in her heart, she is the daughter of all the five elements of nature. Her soul is a vivid traveller, she is independent and it was not achieved overnight, she remembers the pain she underwent in establishing a position that made her mind say ‘no-relationships’. Stories of psychotic boyfriends and nagging in-laws resulting in woman's loss of independence might be some of the reasons that aggravated her consideration not to be in the relationship. In a certain point of her life, she was told not to be too individualistic, so she tried experimenting relationships only to realise her independence was at the altar. She might not know the difference between self-reliance and autarky, but she is the best judge of her life. Hence, she is single. 

5. BECAUSE SHE IS MEGALOMANIAC: Winner stands alone, true, but, megalomaniac too stands alone. People often mistake ‘megalomaniac-female’ with that of a ‘bitch’, while the later is traditional and treatable, the former is unconventional and often goes untreated. She lives in the grant illusion that no man is good enough for her as she is too awesome. She is a big time narcissistic, egoistic and ballistic. Few selfless courageous men might have asked her on a date but it was impossible to handle her diffusion. From the surface, she looks generous, warm and responsible, but she is an opportunist, bitter and blames others for her mistakes. She  is  megalomaniac- Her dog knows about it, her neighbours knows about it, FBI knows about it, so in the era of information and social networking, everyone knows she is a megalomaniac. Hence, she is single.

4. BECAUSE SHE IS AHEAD OF HER TIME: She is a time traveller, she has seen the future. Jumping 1000 years ahead she saw technology governing the planet, robot hopping from one street to other, there is no so-called human relationship, which means no dating, no wedding and no love making, humans behaving like machines- monotonous. She wants to blame the humans for this doom, for the loss of love and dictatorship of technology, but who is she, just another woman next door. She cannot bear the thought of seeing her offspring’s offspring being a part of that regime. She wants the present generation to love poetry, music art and literature for those are the things that push forward human race and makes the human more human, but she finds those who know this sloka forms the minority; she is one of them. No one will believe her if she narrates what she has seen, so she decides to live a life of a recluse. Hence, she is single

3. BECAUSE SHE IS STUCK IN A SITUATION: She might have severe commitment phobia, she might be a super career minded woman but she cannot find a solution to that as it has become a part of her. She might be confused about her sexuality, no one to share around or hear her out, and as obvious, people are judgmental. She might be stuck in a situation of unrequited love: she might be in love with her first cousin or in worse case her own brother, she might be in love with a married man; she might be in love with a person who died 10 years ago. She wants to give away the love she has but the prospective receiver does not want to receive or cannot receive. Different people have different needs, choices, preferences, however, the society we live in does not give enough time to prove a point, and that is when she rebels against the society in her own way. Hence, she is single.  

2. BECAUSE SHE IS A GODDESS: She is beautiful and equally intelligent, she is rich, talented and compassionate, in short; she is the epitome of perfection. However, she is still single. It might be possible that some of the Greek goddesses fell for a human, but that was then, this is now. Gods and goddesses do not trust humans anymore, humans are selfish and foolish, manipulative and amused till the mystery is broken through the destruction of beauty which captivated them for a certain period of time. She is a goddess, she had smelled human intentions, she won’t mingle with ordinary people with ordinary love. Women who cannot be like her will envy her, men who cannot have her will spread malicious rumours about her, anyway, the good thing is everyone is ignorant of her being a goddess. Eventually, she will age but it does not matter to her, she is just waiting for the call from the land where she belongs. Hence, she is single.  

1. BECAUSE SHE IS ALL OUT OF LOVE: What can she give when she herself is broke. What led her to such love-poverty is something only she knows; we are left with few good guesses: childhood emotional deprivation resulting from abuses of various kinds, teenage trauma or early adult dark experiences. Every relationship she knew must have taken a part of love from her. We are told that love is mutual and never goes in vain, but in every step of her life, she found love as an element which could not be recycled, but more like an agent assigned to murder her. Just because you have found a loving person does not mean you have to advertise what perfect relationship can do like everyone is not lucky in gambling, everyone is not lucky in love, everyone does not win the game of love and gets rich. She is all out of love. Hence, she is single.

Yet, the good news is, she has not lost her way…